Aspen Club and Spa

Something strange and unexpected happens when you’re transforming your fitness and physical body, while simultaneously ‘flirting with 40′!

Generally, in your 20’s, presentation is more experimental. This includes everything from your fashion style to your relationships to how you articulate yourself at work and play. We are a bit more to the extremes from careful to reckless, and aren’t as well equipped to handle the missteps. We are definitely learning a lot.

Generally, in your 30’s, your presentation is more individualized and really represents your ‘personal style’ from fashion to professional presentation. Assertiveness in increased and considered risks are taken. As you are more comfortable in your skin, you can thrive through the scrapes along the way.

As I approach my fabulous 40’s I am keenly aware of the importance of ‘authentic presentation’ in everything from choosing what to wear; to choosing what to say. At the same time I am less concerned with what other people think; I am naturally more sensitive to my environment. It’s a great combination…

Tip #1
Wear what you feel you can be your most authentic and powerful presence in:
A Flirting with 40 client reported that she dressed perfectly for her audience (a business meeting) but was so uncomfortable that she wasn’t her most powerful or authentic self in the meeting. Whatever you wear, make sure it fit you first and the audience second. If you can combine the two, even better!
This is just a ’sub-tip’, but don’t wear something just because you can suddenly fit into it (oops!)

Tip #2
Say what you mean, but consider your approach:
I realized in working with a client of mine, that I was censoring what I asked in anticipation of her defensive response. Rather than holding back, consider what you really want to say and frame it in a way that allows for better communication. Remember, communication is the response you get. No matter how you think you are coming across, your recipient is the true judge. I only got this valuable feedback by asking. Don’t forget to ask or check-in on how you are coming across!