We live in a high-speed, instant-access, digital-download culture that puts fast sex, revealing clothes, loosening moral values, and rude behaviors on a pedestal, while the things that used to matter—kindness, understanding, compassion, and mutual respect—are forced to take a back seat. The messages girls receive in today’s world about their roles and worth in society is part of the problem. The technology that is supposed to be connecting teens is disconnecting them from any central core of stable values. It’s harder than ever for a teenage girl to find her way and create healthy, respectful relationships in today’s anything-goes world.
Girls today are subjected to the effects of misogynistic lyrics in some hip-hop songs, music videos with “boobalicious, bootylicious babes”, video games where players get more points for having sex with a girl then killing her, degrading Internet porn that is just a mouse click away for free, and magazine headlines that tell girls the only way to a guy’s heart is through his zipper.
Supporting all that lies technology—cell phones, iPhones, instant messaging, text messaging, MySpace, etc. Yes, they’re all convenient and fun ways to communicate, but they also create a whole new set of problems because miscommunication, and the hard feelings that go hand in hand with that hurts girls. Many of these technologies and social networking websites are also the breeding grounds for bullying and a lot of trauma and drama that girls must endure without knowing the real costs they are paying in terms of health, vitality and well-being.
Corporations and the media are another part of the problem. They study teens and create marketing and advertising programs designed to make girls feel like the only way they can attract a guy is through their looks and sexuality. It’s hard to know what love and respect truly look like in a world that has become so disrespectful to young women. It’s too easy for girls to end up in unhealthy relationships that hinder moving into adulthood with the necessary tools to succeed.
Dr. Leigh, known to her teen audience as simply Dr. Jenn, was concerned that there was little information for girls about how to combat the daily negative messages they were receiving. She began studying teen culture and relationships a decade ago when the first of her own four children stepped over into the teen years. She has written a self-help guide for teen girls: Laid or loved? The Secrets Guys Wish Girls Knew About Being a Dream Girl Instead of a Just-in-His-Jeans Girl. The book, due out next month, reveals the tools to managing all the new technological impacts on teens, the cultural shifts, as well as the media messages, so that girls can learn how to have self-respect and show respect to others. Real stories and quotes from guys from around the world underscore the powerful message that being a Dream Girl really is a key to present and future happiness and success.
The seminar, “Be a Dream Girl,” is based on the new book. It provides an emotionally safe place for teen girls to learn more about who they really are, what they really want, how to listen to themselves and others, as well as the current trends that keep them from experiencing true happiness, success and healthy relationships.
This highly interactive seminar promises to be life changing. Each girl will receive a prepublication copy of Laid or Loved? Two sessions are available to choose from on February 16th at the Aspen Club. For more information or to register please call Dr. Jenn at 650-892-4927 or email her at: jennifer@drjennscoaching.com.
Dr. Jenn is now seeing teen clients for coaching, as well as building Creative Play rooms in client’s homes who want their children to grow more neural connections in their brains for happiness, problem solving and success in life.
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The mission of Ignite Reality is to teach teens how to create respectful relationships with themselves and others in order for safety and harmony to flourish, and to assist them to grow into confident, compassionate, successful adults through coaching, seminars, and brain growing activities.